the Shira Rose

3 Things You Can Do To Show Up For Your Fat Friends

*Hint: It’s not to hunch over to show a stomach fold on Instagram while all your thin friends talk about how brave and inspiring you are.

If that came across a bit grouchy, then let me preface this by saying that I want us ALL to feel comfortable and safe in our bodies. In a fatphobic society, no one wins! Thin people are doing everything they can to avoid being fat while fat people know that no one wants to look like them. But the thing is, thin people struggling with body image still have equal access to employment, medical care, travel, and clothes while fat people face systemic oppression and continue to be excluded and dehumanized every single day. Body positivity goes far beyond liking what you see in the mirror. It’s about working to ensure that the most marginalized have access.

Here is a great article that talks about the harm of fatphobia in our healthcare system.

If you’ve lived your life in a smaller body, you may be unaware of the weight stigma that people in larger bodies face on a daily basis. For example, people in larger bodies may be afraid of going to a restaurant for fear of being unable to fit in a booth or because they may get yelled at or abused for… eating. Fat people often avoid going to the doctor as their medical complaints are often ignored and instead of getting help for symptoms, they’re told to lose weight. Many doctors have expressed repulsion at touching fat patients! People in larger bodies can’t even get clothes for their bodies which is so dehumanizing and makes it really hard to appear the way they’d like to appear for job interviews, let alone in life in general.

If these things bother you, here are 3 things you can do to show up for your fat up for your fat friends (more…)