I wrote this article originally for an online magazine for Jewish women, called The Layers Project. These photos were taken by the talented photographer (fellow social worker too!) and founder of Layers Project- Shira Lankin Sheps. I thought I’d share this today, in honor of National Eating Disorder Awareness week because I believe our toxic diet culture and preoccupation with thinness contributes to the skyrocketing rate of eating disorders. Eating disorders are complex biologically based illnesses (more on that Wednesday) but our culture creates the perfect storm for those predisposed.
There are a million interesting things I can share about myself but let’s start with the fact that I lost weight recently. Isn’t that what’s really most important? Never mind that I have my master’s degree from NYU, run a successful style blog, work as a psychotherapist in a field I love, and have a great personality. None of that matters as much as the size of my body. (more…)
One of the most common comments I seem to get regarding my blog are comments telling me that my confidence is inspiring. It’s interesting that just happening to be in a curvier body while having a blog like thousands of other people do is inspiring. A woman that’s a size 2 and blogs doesn’t get comments about how confident she is, right? It’s amazing that having a curvy body in 2018 and daring to be public about it is a bold and courageous thing to do.
It’s my favorite time of year (cue the sarcasm); a time where everywhere we look there are posts reminding us all that we better be sure to start focusing on making ourselves smaller. Because losing weight seems to be the single most important thing we need to accomplish in 2018. How? By doing a detox, starting keto for the 7th time, or what seems to be the current trend: doing the Whole 30 program.
Diets have been proven not to work. They’ve been proven to be unsustainable and actually cause your metabolism to slow down while increasing your body’s natural set point as well as contribute to disordered eating. But so many people continue to be swayed by the $60 billion diet industry that continues to persuade us that dieting will work if you just have enough discipline.
And for those of you concerned that I’m promoting a lifestyle exclusively of doughnuts and french fries, let me clarify that I think it’s important to learn to nourish our bodies so that we feel our best without restricting any food groups. Learning to eat intuitvely by recognizing and responding to our body’s hunger and fullness cues while also allowing ourselves yummy desserts because they taste darn good is a lot healthier than lifelong yo yo dieting. (more…)
I tried on this long sleeve sequin dress and posted it to my instagram stories and so many of you wanted to know where it was from. You can find it here although it’s mostly sold out. This sequin fit and flare dress is another gorgeous option as well! Also, there’s a GIVEAWAY happening right now on my instagram for Baublebar earrings, a limited edition Bobbi Brown highlighter palette, and a bunch more makeup!
Let’s talk about New Years resolutions for a second. (more…)
I want to start by making it crystal clear that it is never ok to tease, bully, or ridicule someone’s body, fat or thin- EVER. It’s never ok to body shame someone and it needs to stop now. With that being said, I am tired of people crying about being “skinny shamed” and saying that it’s just as bad as being fat shamed. Skinny shaming is wrong, harmful and hurts people’s feelings but it does not compare to the systemic oppression that fat people face every single day.
Open up any magazine and a thin person will see themselves represented on every single page. They’ll see themselves on (more…)