Someone recently told me that if I were really “body positive,” I wouldn’t wear clothes that hide my shape. So let me remind you all that body positivity has nothing to do with how tight I choose to wear my clothes, but it’s a social justice movement started in the 1960s to ensure equal access for people in fat and other marginalized bodies. (more…)
I’ve been talking about writing an updated post on my favorite plus size brands for a few months now and have pushed it off over and over again. Confronting my body changes has been hard and confronting my current clothing options has been absolute shit. I’m the largest I’ve been in over a decade as I’ve worked to eliminate every single food rule and eating disorder behavior that has controlled my life for over two decades. I didn’t really have to confront my body changes for most of quarantine as I wore pj’s and sweats exclusively. But eventually, I knew I needed to go through my closet and was met with racks and racks of clothes that were too small.
But Shira, plus size clothing options are so great now! There has been so much improvement since you were a fat teen! You’ll be able to find clothes that work for your recovered body with ease! Um…. no.
I want to preface what I’m about to say with the disclaimer that my small fat body has a ton of privilege. I’m on the smaller end of plus size and can sometimes wear the biggest sizes in straight size stores, depending on how the clothes run. Once you get past a size 24 or 26, your options are a joke.
With all that being said, there are only a handful of plus-size brands that truly feel like “me.” And then there’s the fact that I’m really short and it appears that brands believe that you can only be thin and short as petite sizing is almost always available in small sizes only. So yes, I have way more options than someone in a mid or super fat body, and confronting my changed body and the dismal clothing options it brings has been really painful.
“Why can’t you share your message in a ‘nicer’ way without being so ANGRY?”
I’ll tell you why. Because learning to get angry is therapeutic and important AF. Instead of directing my anger inward and starving my body to conform to our society’s sick and narrow beauty ideals, I’m working on channeling that anger externally, exactly where it belongs- onto diet culture.
Exercise can be an incredible tool to improve our quality of life. Unfortunately, diet-culture has co-opted exercise and turned it into a way to punish and control our bodies (more…)