Over the last few years I’ve had the privilege of using my social media platforms to promote the idea that there is an alternative to spending your life devoted to dieting and shrinking your body. When I talk about the concepts of Health At Every Size, body liberation, and intuitive eating, I get the same few questions again and again. Today I’m going to be answering the most frequently asked questions. I hope you find this helpful!
What if my doctor is telling me to lose weight for health reasons?
Every single medical condition that exists happens to people in thin bodies AND fat bodies. A doctor telling you that weight loss is the answer is a lazy answer and also pretty concerning considering that there is not a single study out there proven to help people lose weight long term. The majority of people (on ANY diet) gain the weight back plus more by the 2-5 year mark. And yo-yo fluctuations cause all the medical concerns we associate with fat people. Weight cycling, one of the most common outcomes of dieting, causes diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, etc. If you were to stay consistently at a higher weight rather than diet again and again, you’d likely be a lot healthier.
Today I’m sharing what not to say to someone with an eating disorder and what might be helpful to say instead. Often times, these comments come from a place of ignorance and lack of understanding so I hope that this post can bring insight while preventing more people with eating disorders from being hurt.
1. “Don’t worry, guys don’t want skin and bones.”(more…)
This is a post I never wanted to write: It’s a post about relapse.
I’ve spent the last few weeks feeling so ashamed that, after months of intensive treatment in California, I’ve relapsed — badly.
Some of you may have read Sam’s blog post of my experience attempting to receive continued treatment at home. In it, he shares some of the more harrowing details of what happened to me in treatment. It feels heartbreaking that I’m in this dangerous place again, especially when I came back to New York with so much hope for the future.
But I’m not giving up.
I spent weeks in a partial hospitalization program (PHP) that crushed my spirit. But (more…)
My downfall in my eating disorder recovery comes from thinking that I can just hold onto my eating disorder “a little bit.” I can still get better while somehow controlling my weight. I can get better and restrict just a little. I can refrain from certain food groups here and there.
Fatphobia was a huge obstacle in my ability to receive treatment for my eating disorder. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again and again; eating disorders do not have a look. It’s a mental illness that may or may not cause physical changes and the severity of the disorder is so much more complex than a BMI or a number on the scale.
Unfortunately, much of my experience in treatment was traumatic and full of weight bias; I was praised by my doctor for not eating at my first inpatient hospitalization at age 14. The treatment that was supposed to help me ended up harming me- especially throughout my teenage years.
I know my story is not unique which is why I chose to get a little more personal for Healthline here. I think this is an important conversation to bring to the table as eating disorder treatment is in need of some serious change. Read my Healthline piece for more on my experience of trying to get help for my eating disorder for the last 15+ years of my life and let me know your thoughts!